How to Cure Loneliness
More than 30 years ago, I went through a really bad break up. I felt like my heart had been twisted, ripped out, and then stomped on. Even all this time later, I can still close my eyes and remember the hurt and pain that I lived through.
It was a difficult time for both of us.
And after that break up, I learned that I didn’t really know anything about relationships—especially on how to have a healthy one.
So, I worked on myself.
But I went through several years of being lonely. While my friends were getting engaged and married, I just felt lonely and sad.
Not all the time, but it was hard.
When I look back at those years, what helped me was my decision to:
Work with a therapist.
Attend Adult Children of Alcoholic meetings.
Step out of my comfort zone and make new friends.
All of this took time (and is the basis of all that I share in my Let Go and Be Free books). And I get it: It’s a lot more enticing to hear that there’s a simple way to feel good again. But often it’s not that simple and I’m not here to sell you lies.
When I look around today in 2024, I see the change that I’m going through: I’m in my early 50s, my kids are both almost out of the house, and my roles are changing. As a father, I’m not needed as often as in the past. Getting together with friends is more challenging with my friends having their own families or having moved away.
If you’re going through similar life changes, or you might be struggling with loneliness becuse it’s winter, then this week’s podcast is for you.
I go through three steps on how you can cure your loneliness and deal with your feeling like you don’t fit in (a common trait I’ve found that others who grew up in a dysfunctional family have).
In order to move forward, we need to help ourselves. But if you’re in a crisis and need help NOW, please, PLEASE contact the Crisis Lifeline.
The winter can be an extremely difficult time for people and I wanted to share some helpful information and tips on this week’s episode.